Weddings

"I love people with flaws. I feel comfortable around them. I myself am made up completely of flaws stitched together with good intentions" - A. Burroughs. I love this quote - and I think that makes the difference between a halfway decent person and one who is a pain in the backside..coz the pain the backside people think they dont have a smidgen of a flaw in them and are constantly pointing out flaws in others - as if we didnt already know we have flaws. Me flawed, him flawed, her flawed, YOU flawed - get over it.

So Aish and Abhi finally did it eh? But they both look as if they sucked on an assam in the wedding photos - why so sad? A little smile wouldnt be out of place surely on what is supposed to be the happiest day of their lives. Indian brides are often told to look demure and not show off their molars at their wedding ceremony - but Aish seriously looked like someone was holding a gun to her head and Abhishek looked like his undies were on too tight. Dad-in-law appeared to be more into it than the bride and groom - who can blame him - he gets to look at the Worlds Most Beautiful Woman 24/7 from now on - old bugger is probably wishing he could have married her himself.

What is even more hootworthy is good ole Arun Nayar's dad disowning him and his bro for not letting the ole man do a drunken bhangra at the Liz-Arun wedding of the year and also suing em for not keeping in line with Hindu traditions etc. at the ceremony. Please lah - the fact that Liz and Arun have been living together for the past 4 years pretty much precludes the hindu law applying to anything anyway - let alone the minor transgressions claimed to have been perpetrated by them at their wedding ceremony. The old man is just pissed off that he wasnt given "face" at the wedding - and nothing could be more Indian than that. Liz has been introduced to the most time-honoured tradition amongst Indians - "face" and the saving thereof is the be all and the end all amongst Indians.

A friend of mine's wedding ended in her not speaking to her aunt for 10 years due to face saving mishaps - unintentional it turned out but who bothers to analyse when emotions are running high and out of control. Another friend apparently did not invite a distant relatives brother-in-law thus earning her a tongue lashing from the relative - whom she didnt even know anyway. My wedding had its share of dramas in the lead up but happily the actual festivities passed without incident...or at least if there were incidents I never heard about it - which is all that matters anyway right?

Weddings are lovely arent they - they bring out the worst in even the best of people. Wonder what will happen when DD decides to marry - though DH and I are steeling ourselves for the "Folks meet my partner we are going to be living together" - "Wedding? What wedding?" type conversation. Which may be a good thing anyway - save me from having to argue with members of my extended family. Wedding? What Wedding? My daughter is living in sin - muahahahahaHA.